Mini but Multi? Towards a More Perfect Nuptial Celebration
Like feathers to the wind!
You know by now that as we get older, we debate straight vs skinny jeans, and we have an exceptionally hard time to gather a group of people to simply hang out.
After graduation, most of us scatter to different corners of the world, congregating only like disparate magnets at major milestones events.
So I’d like to shake you by your shoulders and say, “Because it’s so hard and precious, WHY STOP AT JUST ONE DAY????”
Here at Dunskey, we insist that you spend three days in this glorious Castle, and pretend you’re swooning around with the Bridgertons on the ton. Perhaps get a smaller group of people together to create that dormitory feel, but this time with posh Victorian lux and some Michelin-star food.
Need more reasons to have a multi-day celebration? Let me count the ways.
1. SLUMBER PARTIES
Let’s first state the most immediate and obvious: grownup sleepovers. It’s no surprise that over 70% of all college graduates rate “late night conversations with friends” as THE MOST legendary and significant collegiate experience. Bring together some of your dearest friends, introduce them to your family and one another, throw in a few roaring fireplaces and a platter of pheasant popcorn bites, and you’re golden. (We said PHEASANT, which is a delicious game bird, not a medieval farmer, you ghastly beast.)
2. MAKE PEOPLE GIVE UP
One of our clients cautioned all those who are considering a multi-day event celebration, “Just know your guests will leave not knowing how to top the experience” (Dunskey Estate Google review, Kevin Bronk). Indeed, three full days of swanning around like lords and ladies in a heritage Scottish castle, with incredible customised experiences such as a bespoke scavenger hunt that takes you to the sea. Come on, laze on a Morrocan rug at the private Dunskey bay and sip a hot toddy, with oysters in Bourbon butter bubbling on the grill, and watch the sun slip into the ocean.
3. THE HEART OF GATHERING
At the end of the day, the heart of all celebration is the act of gathering. With a three-day program, you’ll have endless moments and backdrops to catch up with far-flung friends, huddle over that hilarious cat meme–I’m prepared to go forward with it, Judge, and marvel at one another’s life journey thus far. Afterall, a study from Psychology Science showed definitively that extraordinary experiences forment the most unbreakable bonds, and can define your life travels together in the future.
4. RAGE AGAINST THE MACHINE
Simply say a giant nope to the same old formula and the too-well trodden wedding industrial complex. If there is one singular lesson we have learned from months of virtual hugs and elbow bumps, it is this: true connection matters most. How many celebrations have you attended, where you simply desired for more time for a longer conversation, a slower sip of whisky (ok tequila), and to do that with all guests in attendance? It can happen, with a smaller, and longer nuptial.
Let these words from George Eliot ring true in a space that encompasses all of you and your love for each other. “Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”